Sample BDSM Contract Template

An example of a Dom/sub relationship contract template that I have used

Sample Contract

• Section 1: Joint agreements

  • Duration:

  • Terms of Termination

  • Frequency of Interaction

  • Roles of Dominant and Submissive

  • External Participants

• Section 2: Submissive’s Agreements

  • Areas of acceptable control

  • Areas not in dominant’s control

  • Safe Words

  • Limits

  • Language

  • Exceptions and special circumstances

  • Punishments and rewards

  • Rights

  • Responsibilities

  • Expectations

• Section 3: Dominant’s Agreement

  • Limits

  • Rights and Expectations

  • Responsibilities

  • Exceptions or Special Circumstances

Having something on which to base your contract can make the entire process easier. I’m not big on contracts myself, but when I have used them, this is what I use as a template. I try to focus on exceptions and precision, and I’ve deliberately kept the “Submissive’s Training Manual” as a separate document that you might consider as an addendum to this contract.

Notice how my submissive reviewed the manual and here we note the areas of the manual that she found unacceptable.

Contracts need to be re-updated frequently so they remain relevant.

Section 1: Joint agreements

Duration: 

This agreement will apply starting on: __ / __ / ____,

For __ months, to be renegotiated at the completion of that time.

Terms of Termination

• At will, upon notification by either party.

• Upon any violation of hard limits, this contract will be terminated immediately, without notice.

• Immediately upon either party starting another relationship, without notice.

Frequency of Interaction

• 2 nights per week together, minimum

• 2 nights per week apart, minimum

• When 2 nights together are skipped due to dominant being out of town, sub will track “missed” nights and can “redeem” those missed nights in the week upon the dominant’s return.

• While out of town, minimum 2 nights per week virtual (phone or video) interaction.

Roles of Dominant and Submissive

• Traditional, 1950’s kink roles

External Participants

• Mutual agreement

Section 2: Submissive’s Agreements

Areas of acceptable control

• Diet

• Exercise regimen

• Dress

• Chores / Tasks

• Education